Loosing your way happens so quickly, you may not even notice you’ve lost your way. You just know something is just not right. Being lost can leave you feeling lonely, sad even depressed. You can feel this way even though your surrounded by friends and family. Feelings of being less than slip in out of the blue. Your happiness seems far from your reality. You may smile your way through a family gathering, holiday, party or outing, missing the value of the Joy within moments you’ve just lost.
Being lost can come from a grief you are carrying around. Grief is complicated. You don’t just grieve loved ones or pets you have lost . You grieve lost childhoods, regrets, failures, illness, divorce, life events and or situations. Grief will always be there, but the energetic tone of it can lesson when we learn to recognize the pain caused from grief. Allowing yourself to move through life after grief can take time and energy along with your willingness to rediscover a new way of processing and living with the grief.
Your grief is very personal and emotional.
You set yourself up to hold onto these griefs as reminders of your loss or because you don’t know how to allow yourself to release the grief.
Grief is never ending but can lessen in pain.
Grief is not you but a life event that you are working through.
Grief can offer you many lessens.
What you may not realize is that the grief that you hold onto has an energetic effect in your life and within your body. The energetic tone that runs through the body is the tone that you live in. Your life then is a reflection of the grief’s energy.
Becoming one with yourself, helps you to recognize and heal the grief.
The first step to recover the sense of who you are is awareness.
List the griefs in order of the most painful to the least painful your life.
Notice if there is any correlation to the way your griefs are listed.
a. Loss of a loved one then a divorce
b. Childhood trauma then an illness
c. Divorce then an illness
d. Trauma then a regret
Understanding the energy of the grief is the next step. A quiet mind is needed to reach the energy. Breath awareness helps quiet your mind. Breathe in through the nose into the belly for a count of 10, exhale out the nose to the count of 10. This helps you quiet the mind while connecting to the grief.
3. Next to each grief write the tone, color or energy the grief has.
a. Anger can be red in color with a hot, sparky tone
b. Sadness can be yellow in color and be a withdrawn feeling
c. Loneliness can be pale blue in color and be an isolated feeling
d. Disconnect can be white in color and be a feeling of poor judgement
4. Next to the grief write down where in your body you feel the energy of the grief.
a. Loss is felt in my heart
b. Childhood trauma is in my lower back
c. Divorce is felt in my gut
d. Trauma is felt in my head
Healing can occur with our permission. Free will to heal. Inviting God in with prayer and an open mind creates space for healing. Releasing allows the healing to take hold. For every action there is a reaction. Forgiveness is the foundation to all healing. Forgiveness frees the body, mind and spirit from the energy of holding on.
5. Now you can ask the grief what is needed in order to heal. Connect with the grief with pen in hand. Close your eyes and allow the breath to bring you to the center of the grief. When the connection is made allow the pen to write or draw any impressions that come forward.
Grief can be the catalyst for change and growth. You can move forward without missing the precious moments of your life.
My personal experience in helping my clients move through grief has been that when you are consumed by the initial grief the flow needed to live in the life is stopped. A stopped life creates space for more suffering in. A forward flowing life creates space for new positive growth to move in. This can be in the form of transforming a simple life to a life of service. Recognizing the grief, hearing the calling for change, inviting healing to take place are the actions to regaining your balance. Once the balance is in place Joy is welcomed back in.