Grieving The Toxic Relationship

There are complicated emotions and feelings that arise from the loss of a loved one, especially when one is  grieving the loss of a loved one who has caused pain and suffering to you and others during that soul’s life.

Grieving the toxic relationship, one that has left the scars of emotional and or physical wounds brings you down the path of engaging in the memories and events. The abusive relationship stares directly at you as you try to sift through the memories and unfinished business that aid your inner turmoil and end up fueling Shmego’s fearful tone.

The loss relationship deepens the internal conflict of ones private pain carried within the body, which  challenges the natural course of grief from flowing. This is where the block is becomes the wall keeping you hostage in fears prison.

Grief as you may know is also known as bereavement. Bereavement  is the state of a responsive being caused by a loss or a death.

Just a little side note that not all grief is caused from a physical death. Grief is a multi-layered response to loss and comprise physical, emotional and energetic energy.

Grief can be felt and experienced within all the human senses. This is why grief is complicated and unique to each soul.

Spirit offers messages and insights about abusive relationships and how it pertains to grief.

When a person is subjected to abuse, the pain of that relationship is centered around the actions of the abuser.

The victim is then predisposed to fear not only from within but also the energetic fear from their abuser. Separating from abusers fear is challenging to say the least.

Spirit says in order for healing to occur one must be accountable for their actions, reactions and the energy they omit.

To heal grief of any kind especially if you are grieving due to a trauma you must first heal your relationship with your Goddess Soul-Self.

Within The Goddess You twelve principles you will find your pathway to healing what ails you.

Surrender your past over to the Divine, Quiet the tones and memories that hold you in the pain.

Self love will be your pathway to hearing the Divine speak to you.

Forgiveness frees the energetic connection to the abuser.

Taking control of your actions and reactions by inviting love in and calming the feelings of isolation, anger, loneliness, sadness, grief.

Clearing your energy of the old while being in the moment of now.

Releasing the chains to past pains that are the blocks.

Letting go of the stories causing you to stay in the grief like its ground hog day over and over again.

Paying attention to your physical body the energy within your being.

Knowing what serves your well being and what doesn’t serve you.

Be Calm.

Picking yourself up when you crash and not kicking your self when you’re down.

Aligning to your mind, body and spirit.

Listening to your inner intuitive voice.

Today we breached a topic that is not easily discussed. I know first hand of the pain one can carry around from not healing ones grief. I have seen this type of grief cause by physical and mental aliments, illness and even death.

When I ask the Angels about why this happens in life, and why souls will suffer at the hands of another the answer I receive is not easily understood by many but truly the answer to heal ones life. The Angels say repair the relationship with God. The separation from soul to the Divine is where the pain keeps us isolated and in fear. Inviting Divine love is our free will, and is why we are here, To remember God.

Don’t go it alone!

Blessings

xx Jeanne

Moments Lost

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Moments lost

Moments Lost
Loosing your way happens so quickly, you may not even notice you’ve lost your way. You just know something is just not right. Being lost can leave you feeling lonely, sad even depressed. You can feel this way even though your surrounded by friends and family. Feelings of being less than slip in out of the blue. Your happiness seems far from your reality. You may smile your way through a family gathering, holiday, party or outing, missing the value of the Joy within moments you’ve just lost.

Being lost can come from a grief you are carrying around. Grief is complicated. You don’t just grieve loved ones or pets you have lost . You grieve lost childhoods, regrets, failures, illness, divorce, life events and or situations. Grief will always be there, but the energetic tone of it can lesson when we learn to recognize the pain caused from grief. Allowing yourself to move through  life after grief can take time and energy along with your willingness to rediscover a new way of processing and living with the grief.

Grief truths
Your grief is very personal and emotional.
You set yourself up to hold onto these griefs as reminders of your loss or because you don’t know how to allow yourself to release the grief.
Grief is never ending but can lessen in pain.
Grief is not you but a life event that you are working through.
Grief can offer you many lessens.

What you may not realize is that the grief that you hold onto has an energetic effect in your life and within your body. The energetic tone that runs through the body is the tone that you live in. Your life then is a reflection of the grief’s energy.

Becoming one with yourself, helps you to recognize and heal the grief.

The first step to recover the sense of who you are is awareness.

List the griefs in order of the most painful to the least painful your life.
Notice if there is any correlation to the way your griefs are listed.
Examples:
a. Loss of a loved one then a divorce
b. Childhood trauma then an illness
c. Divorce then an illness
d. Trauma then a regret
Understanding the energy of the grief is the next step. A quiet mind is needed to reach the energy. Breath awareness helps quiet your mind. Breathe in through the nose into the belly for a count of 10, exhale out the nose to the count of 10. This helps you quiet the mind while connecting to the grief.

3. Next to each grief write the tone, color or energy the grief has.
Example:
a. Anger can be red in color with a hot, sparky tone
b. Sadness can be yellow in color and be a withdrawn feeling
c. Loneliness can be pale blue in color and be an isolated feeling
d. Disconnect can be white in color and be a feeling of poor judgement

4. Next to the grief write down where in your body you feel the energy of the grief.
Example
a. Loss is felt in my heart
b. Childhood trauma is in my lower back
c. Divorce is felt in my gut
d. Trauma is felt in my head
Healing can occur with our permission. Free will to heal. Inviting God in with prayer and an open mind creates space for healing. Releasing allows the healing to take hold. For every action there is a reaction. Forgiveness is the foundation to all healing. Forgiveness frees the body, mind and spirit from the energy of holding on.

5. Now you can ask the grief what is needed in order to heal. Connect with the grief with pen in hand. Close your eyes and allow the breath to bring you to the center of the grief. When the connection is made allow the pen to write or draw any impressions that come forward.

Grief can be the catalyst for change and growth. You can move forward without missing the precious moments of your life.

My personal experience in helping my clients move through grief has been that when you are consumed by the initial grief the flow needed to live in the life is stopped. A stopped life creates space for more suffering in. A forward flowing life creates space for new positive growth to move in. This can be in the form of transforming a simple life to a life of service. Recognizing the grief, hearing the calling for change, inviting healing to take place are the actions to regaining your balance. Once the balance is in place Joy is welcomed back in.

Blessings
xx Jeanne